Why Is It So Hard For Black Women To Find The Love They Deserve?
And sadly having worked with many younger women in my job the decent ones are also too few and far between. I have worked with the lazy, the drug addicted (pot, alcohol, opiods etc.), the down-right stupid , and the sexually loose , to the cheaters there are almost zero women worth the risk of marrying today. So while I wish the best in your attempt to bring people together who may earnestly like to find that companionship, keep in mind that for many there is not an automatic positive association with relationships or intimacy.
With our mortality and fragility feeling more present than ever, there’s a sense of urgency to say and do the hardest, most important things in life. Plus, with my other love languages temporarily obsolete under the circumstances, my words often feel like all I’ve got. I’ve already said it to a handful of my closest guy friends, and recently, I decided to say it to more of them. I’d actually made this resolution a while ago, before the coronavirus turned our world upside down. Sure, it shouldn’t take a pandemic to tell people how I really feel, but it shouldn’t take events like weddings or funerals either.
In that article, I explained my hypothesis that women are stuck in a double-bind between what they are told through modern social norms and their own biological motivation. This week, I will discuss how that double-bind for women may have resulted in a double-bind for men as well. Whoever said dating in the modern age was easy, was clearly very wrong. All those women you see in happy, long-term relationships have managed to trigger the hero instinct in their partner. While dating websites existed, they were very taboo.
Because of this women usually become pretty discerning about who they spend their time with. This results in leaving many men feeling like their standards are so high that a mere mortal like them can never meet them. Others don’t find the right partner on the right time frame. Science is improving, some stats around fertility are inaccurate. Sometimes it is the man’s fertility, not the woman’s that is an issue. With that said – the Fear Of Time Running Out (FOTRO??) that women have around dating is present and real.
If the average man, under average conditions, wants to be 99% certain he’ll receive a reply to a message online he will need to send 114 messages . Anyone who’s tried online dating knows this is total bullshit. There are plenty of other guys I love and who love me, but I didn’t resolve to say it to all of them. I didn’t want it to feel contrived, or for them to feel put upon. Words are a way I prefer to give and receive love, but they’re not everyone’s way .
Getting rid of various insecurities if you have them is a difficult process. But it can be done with the help of a professional therapist or a life coach. This can manifest itself in many different ways, but often it’s when guys are desperate to have sex. And they’ll do anything and everything just to get laid. There are too many fat, lazy slobs who hate how they look but do nothing to change their situation. And then they cry about why they can’t get a girlfriend.